Becoming a Surrogate Mother: How to Tell your Children

Posted on: December 15th, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

Surrogate Mother Giving someone the opportunity to experience parenthood is a wonderful, selfless gift. Making the decision to become a surrogate mother is not easy. Surrogacy is an intense journey with many ups and downs along the way. You’ve probably spent months thinking about what the process entails and have dedicated time to extensive research. What  is important to keep in mind however, is the fact that becoming a surrogate will not only affect you, but also your entire family.

One of the biggest concerns women have when considering to become a surrogate mother is how to tell their children. Throughout these nine months a lot of things will change. You and your family will have to make adjustments prior to the arrival of the baby. Many parents often feel uncomfortable discussing birth and conception with their children. Therefore, it’s understandable that having to also talk to your kids about the additional legal, medical, and emotional complexities of surrogacy can actually be quite overwhelming.

Telling your Child About Becoming a Surrogate Mother:

It is recommended that you tell your family once you have made the final decision to become a surrogate. In order to have a healthy relationship with your children, communication is key. Being open, honest and straightforward will enhance the bond you share with your child.

Work through and explain the process of surrogacy to them clearly, without downplaying their feelings. The way your child will take the news is really dependent on their age and personality. Some children are more sensitive than others. Emotions can range from happiness, jealousy and anger to resentment and sadness. They may voice their feelings of abandonment or they may be angry that the baby won’t be staying with the family, and have trouble accepting the fact that they will not get the chance to be an older brother or sister.

At the end of the day, kids like to be involved in the decision-making process so it may be a good idea to keep them in the loop. Inform them about the reproductive cycle and how babies are made. Choosing to delay telling your children about your choice to become a surrogate mother may lead them to resent you and the intended parents. In addition, failing to tell the truth may leave you with feelings of guilt and may cause your children to have a negative view of surrogacy. It may even be a good idea to introduce them to the prospective parents to get a better understanding of the situation.

Present your role as a surrogate mother in a positive light. Explain to your child that making the decision to pursue surrogacy is a rewarding experience. With your help and generosity, you are giving another family an opportunity to expand or create a family of their own. Give your children reassurance and tell them you love them and would never think to give them away. Encourage them to ask questions and allow them to voice their opinions freely. Getting your family on board with the idea and gaining support from your loved ones will make your nine month journey of surrogacy easier.

If you are still debating becoming a surrogate but not sure what the entire process entails, do not hesitate to contact us today!

The Texas Advantage

Posted on: December 9th, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

texas advantageThere are many advantages to choosing Simple Surrogacy as your surrogacy agency. Beyond the immense list of satisfied clients and our expertly trained and caring staff, we offer the Texas Advantage. The Texas Advantage involves lower costs, a central location, and several legal advantages for our clients.

Cost

There is a cost advantage to surrogacy in Texas. We offer lower rates in comparison to agencies in the east and west. Since we operate in Texas, we have the benefit of no state income tax. This allows us to immediately cut 10% of the competitor’s costs.

The cost of living is also 10-15% lower in Texas, as opposed to other states where surrogacy is legally favorable. We pay less for rent, personnel, utilities, and more. This results in lower overhead and expense costs, which trickles down to our clients.  

Since we are centrally located, we are close to both coasts and close to one of the country’s largest airports, saving us a lot of time and money on flights. This helps us remain quick and efficient in our process, saving you both time and money.

Location

Texas is located along the border of Mexico, in the center of the United States of America. This location allows us to work seamlessly with other states to further assist you. We will match our clients with surrogates and donors from other states where surrogacy is legally favorable such as Florida and California. We are also part of the central time zone which makes us available during the working day for most people on the east and west coast.

Legal

Surrogacy is permitted in the state of Texas. There are several legal advantages to this, including:

Married Couples

The advantage of being in Texas for married couples seeking surrogacy is that Texas has strong laws legalizing their Gestational Surrogacy. This means that donor and gestational arrangements are fully protected under Texas law.

Gestational Surrogacy Arrangements

In 2003, Texas enacted laws governing surrogacy called Gestational Arrangements. These arrangements work alongside Gestational Agreements and Egg Donor Agreements to properly protect all those who chose surrogacy. These guidelines outline what gestational arrangements should contain so that a Texas court can recognize and ratify what is written in the arrangement. To learn more in depth about surrogacy laws in Texas, visit our Texas Advantages page.

Simple Surrogacy is a full-service surrogacy agency that assists couples and individuals in achieving a family through surrogacy. If you have any questions about using a surrogacy agency in Texas, please do not hesitate to contact us. One of our friendly and well-trained staff members will be glad to assist you and answer all of your questions.

How an Egg Donor Pregnancy Can Feel Like Your Own

Posted on: December 8th, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

Egg Donor PregnancyAt a young age, many girls dream about the day they get to be a mother. Playing ‘house’ with their little baby doll, assuming one day they will be able to have their own children, and begin their family. Many women, however, are not as fortunate and have to face their infertility head on.

When a woman learns she is unable to conceive a child on her own, she is often left at a loss for words, wondering how she will move on from this. If this has happened to you and you have begun for alternatives ways to have your own family, you’ve probably come across egg donation.

Although egg donation is an amazing alternative to starting your own family, a common concern amongst most infertile women is that they fear that their pregnancy experience will not be the same. Many women fear that the absence of a biological connection to their child will dominate how they feel throughout the pregnancy.

You may wonder if the baby will look like you and worry that you’ll find yourself trying to recognize yourself in them. This path to parenthood may not have been what you intended, but nonetheless with egg donation, you’ll get to experience the same nine month pregnancy as other mothers do.

After dealing with the emotional aspects of using an egg donor and finding an ideal match, you’ll start to see how the pregnancy will feel like your own. Regardless of the process being used to conceive, your role as the baby’s mother will not change. You’ll go through the same ups and downs as a biological pregnancy. Carrying a child for nine months, hearing their heartbeat for the first time, and watching them grow, you’ll get to experience the same type of attachment to the child.

At the end of the day, regardless of the biological link, you are still the one giving birth to him/her and raising the child as your own. This special bond with your child is irreplaceable and with the help and generosity of an egg donor, you’ll be able to fulfil your dreams of parenthood.

If you are interested in learning more about egg donation and egg donor arrangements, do not hesitate to call us. You can contact us toll free at 1-866-41-SURRO, locally at 214-673-9321, or visit Simple Donations to learn more.

How to Stay Stress-free during your Surrogacy

Posted on: December 2nd, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

Stress free surrogacy The surrogacy process can be stressful. From struggling with infertility, to selecting an egg donor or surrogate, even the calmest individual would experience some level of stress during this process.

Stress can take away from the process and the joy that welcoming a child into your life can bring. Here are some techniques you can use to remain stress-free throughout your surrogacy.

Deep Breathing

Deep breathing is a stress relieving technique that is often underrated. Take a break from whatever you are doing and place your hand on your stomach. Breathe in through your nose, focusing on expanding your stomach to make your hand rise. Then, exhale slowly and with control, through your mouth. Repeat for 5 minutes. This technique can be used as many times as necessary throughout the day to decrease stress levels.

Yoga

Yoga is an excellent form of exercise and relaxation. Being active helps to release endorphins in the brain. The release of endorphins can help ease depression, anxiety, and stress. Yoga is also a calming form of exercise in nature. It focuses on self-awareness and breathing which helps further reduce stress levels.

Sleep

Sleep is a part of our everyday lives. We use this time to recharge our minds and for our bodies to rest. Lack of sleep can lead to memory, judgment, and mood alterations. It is imperative that you get a proper night’s sleep if you wish to remain stress-free. Try to achieve 8 hours of sleep a night.

Journal

Writing down all that is worrying you in life is a great way to reduce stress. Try journaling in bed before you go to sleep. This can help ease your mind and improve your sleep. Also, creating lists can be a great way to reduce the stress caused by worrying that you will forget something or miss a deadline.

Visualization

Visualization is a great way to relieve stress. Close your eyes and picture a place that you feel very relaxed in, such as a beach. Think about what it looks, feels, smells, and tastes like. Doing this can actually bring you the same decreased stress levels as if you were in the location you are picturing.

If you are feeling stressed during your surrogacy process, one of our experts can help. Sometimes just learning more about the process can be enough to decrease your stress level. Contact us today!

What to Consider When Choosing an Egg Donor

Posted on: December 1st, 2016 by Marwa Shwagi No Comments

Egg Donor Congratulations on the decision to become parents through surrogacy! We at Simple Surrogacy promise to be with you, and  guide you, throughout your journey to parenthood. Now that you have begun your journey, you must select an egg donor. This is a large decision, as this individual will comprise half of your future child’s DNA.

Medical Considerations

Many say that as long as their baby is happy and healthy, nothing else matters. In the case of surrogacy, all egg donors are pre-screened and must meet a list of criteria in order to donate. This helps eliminate some of the concerns associated with the health of the baby. In order to be considered as an egg donor, a woman must:

  • Be between the ages of 18-30
  • Have a BMI of 33 or lower
  • NOT smoke, take illegal drugs, or be alcohol dependent
  • Have NO sexually transmitted diseases
  • Have NO psychiatric illnesses
  • Know at least one half of their genetic make-up
  • Have minimum of high-school education
  • Have NO genetically carried medical conditions

There are more requirements to becoming an egg donor, but the above list covers all medical and physical issues. This helps ensure the egg donor is in the best physical shape to provide you with a healthy egg.

Other Considerations

When deciding what you are looking for in an egg donor, you must determine what qualities mean the most to you. If you’re going through surrogacy with a partner, then you must also consider what qualities are most important to them.

We suggest making a list of the qualities that you would like your egg donor to have. Once you have made a list, you can then rank the qualities in order of importance. This way, if none of the donors have all of the qualities you desire, you will know ahead of time which qualities mean the most to you.

Some of the most popular qualities of an egg donor people look for include:

  • Personality
  • Eye color
  • Height
  • Blood type

If you have any questions about how to select an egg donor, please don’t hesitate to contact us. One of our experts will be happy to guide you through the selection process and help you choose an egg donor.

How Surrogacy Impacts Relationships

Posted on: November 25th, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

shutterstock_521117749Surrogacy is a form of assisted third party reproduction in which a woman agrees to carry a child for a couple who is unable to conceive on their own.

Deciding on surrogacy is not an easy decision to make, so getting your family and friends on board with the idea could be the solution for a stress-free and successful pregnancy. Becoming a surrogate mother is a life-changing event that affects you and your family, so even before filling out the application, be sure to inform your loved ones. Inform them on the reasoning behind your decision to become a surrogate, and listen to their feelings and opinions. Your family’s concerns may sometimes seem selfish, but in reality they may be mainly concerned about your health and well-being.

Although it may seem like a personal decision, think about how this decision will affect your children and partner in the long run. Whether it’s medical check-ups or travelling distances to meet with the prospective parents, your family will have to make sacrifices with you along the way. While you are pregnant there will be limited activity and shifts in responsibility. Thus, it’s important to communicate with each other and keep your partner involved. Your significant other may be skeptical , thinking something like “you’re carrying another man’s baby.” Through gestational surrogacy, there is no genetic ties between you and the baby. However, it is best to reassure your partner that you are giving a child to a couple in need and remind them about the financial benefits that will ultimately help you and your family. Finally, you should also consult your children and assure them that there is no emotional attachment to the baby. Typically, children of surrogate mothers do not experience negative consequences from their decision to become a surrogate and are very supportive of their mother’s new role.

After applying to become a surrogate, new relationships are formed as well. These relationships are usually valued and sustained in the long run. Surrogates often chose to maintain contact with the intended parents and often meet throughout the year.  47% of children keep in touch with their surrogate mother and have reported having a great relationship with her.

Ultimately, becoming a surrogate is not a simple decision. Consulting your family and loved ones is a great idea. Talk it through with them and ensure you have the support system you need during the next nine months.

When you’re ready to learn more about surrogacy, Simple Surrogacy is ready to help! Contact us today.

How Can I Benefit from Becoming an Egg Donor?

Posted on: November 24th, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

shutterstock_521800369One of the greatest gifts that a woman can give is the miracle of life. At a young age, many girls look forward to the day they are able to start their own family. Unfortunately, not every woman is blessed with the opportunity to conceive children. The generosity of egg donation can be a rewarding experience and a dream come true for couples who once thought they were unable to have a child. The ability to provide someone with a child is life-changing.

If you are thinking about becoming an egg donor and are curious about what typically motivates women to donate, here are a few key benefits to keep in mind when considering the role of an egg donor.

Compensation:
There are definitely financial advantages accompanying egg donation. Egg donors are compensated for their contribution in addition to being reimbursed for their expenses and legal fees. Depending on their experience, education and demand, egg donors can receive between $5,500 and up to $10,000! Opportunities that were once limited to these individuals due to financial restrictions can now be attainable. Whether the money is used to pursue an education, go on a trip, or for other personal reasons, the compensation from donating your eggs opens windows for new opportunities.

Life Changing Experience:
While money is a major motivator, many women also choose to donate their eggs because of the feeling it gives them. 15% of couples struggle with fertility issues that are often impossible to fix. Worldwide, there are couples who long to be parents and start a family, but do not have the means to do so. Studies have shown that women who cannot conceive go through stress and anxiety levels similar to those who have recently recovered from a heart attack or have been diagnosed with cancer. Egg donation is thus life changing for both same sex and infertile couples. Knowing you are providing someone else with a miracle of life often leaves egg donors with a feeling of altruism, increased level of self-confidence, and long lasting pride.

You’ll get to learn more about your body:
During the egg donation process, the donor must go through screenings to ensure a healthy medical and psychologic condition to ensure you are a good candidate for egg donation. This process allows you to learn about your physical health and well-being in addition to fertility status. In case you want to conceive children in the future, this information can provide value to you and your partner. You may find out things about yourself you did not know before.

If you are a young, healthy female looking to give someone the gift of life, contact us toll-free at 1-866-41-SURRO, locally at 214-673-9321, or visit the Simple Donations website  to learn more about the egg donation process.

Egg donation: Common Concerns of Egg Donation

Posted on: November 18th, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

Discussing Egg Donor

Whether you are an LGBTQ couple or dealing with infertility issues, having to consider egg donation is typically not the first option on your agenda. This idea can be difficult to wrap your head around and hard to accept, especially for couples struggling to cope with infertility. Oftentimes, these couples may be going through a series of emotions ranging from indecision, fear, to confusion. These are typical concerns and fears that intended parents have in regards to egg donation:

What if I cannot bond with my baby?
Having to deal with the idea that having a baby through the use of another woman’s eggs can often be difficult for intended parents to accept. The chance of this happening is very rare. Couples expecting an egg donor baby are usually very excited and welcoming of the birth of the baby. From the child’s birth, intended parents will embrace the child as their own and a bond is instantly created.

In the future, will my child not accept me when they find out I am not the biological mother?
Regardless of the fact that you are an egg donor recipient, you are still the biological mother of your child. The pregnancy process and giving birth are all biological. As long as you are there for your child, love and support them, they will grow to love and respect you as their parents.

My family and friends will judge me
Take your time. If you are worrying about telling your loved ones about your decision to resort to egg donation, you can consider telling them at a later time. Making this decision is not simple, so it is important to get support – you can even ask to speak with a counselor or advisor to aid you in making the decision.

Is there a possibility my child will have a genetic disease or future illness?
At Simple Surrogacy, potential donors go through a series of screenings to ensure they are the best fit for you and your family. Although this is very rare, there is a possibility that health conditions may arise in the future. Make sure you mention your concerns about the donor’s medical history to your Reproductive Attorney. 

Will my egg donor have custody rights or be able to contact my child in the future?
Together with the help of a Reproductive and Family Law Attorney, you will draft a contract that will discuss the role of the egg donor in your child’s life. Typically the egg donor receives minimal information in regards to the intended parents. Your egg donor will hand over all parental and custodial rights to the child that is born from the use of their donated eggs.

If you are still unsure and have more questions and concerns about the process of egg donation, please feel free to contact us or visit us today.

Hear from our Surrogates and Intended Families

Posted on: November 17th, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

Surrogates

Surrogacy, no matter if you are the surrogate or the intended parent, is a life changing event. Regardless of the method that you chose, the end result is bringing a child into the world, and into your home. There are many things to consider and plenty of research to be done, which can quickly become overwhelming and stressful. We want to take the burden of researching and choosing a Surrogacy Agency off your shoulders. There is no better way to learn about us, our methods and our mission than from the intended parents and the surrogates themselves.

Intended Parents

Nancy and Jim from Massachusetts used Simple Surrogacy to find a surrogate. Nancy and Jim raved that Simple Surrogacy “found us the most amazing surrogate who is now like a member of our family.” Nancy and Jim continue that at Simple Surrogacy “you are not just a “client”…they make you feel as though you are a friend.” Nancy and Jim are now “the proud parents of almost 2 year old twins”.

After several failed attempts at having children, Rochelle and Jake from Denver chose Simple Surrogacy. They now want other parents “to know that there is hope no matter what you have been through trying to have a baby.”

Amy L. from Dallas claims that “Finding Simple Surrogacy was the best thing that could have happened” to her. She was impressed with the service, mentioning that she was contacted “less than an hour after I sent my first email” to discuss her needs. During the phone consultation between her and her surrogate, an expert “stayed on the line to make sure all of our questions were answered and that the conversation moved swiftly.” Amy goes on to say “the entire process of IVF and surrogacy can be a little daunting to say the least.” She however found reassurance and friendship that helped her get through the process and that Simple Surrogacy was “the helping hand that you will surely need along the way.”

Surrogate

Jasmine from Washington chose to become a surrogate through Simple Surrogacy. She “would love to help another family achieve their goals of becoming parents” and plans “to be a surrogate again in the future.” Jasmine also mentioned that she “couldn’t imagine going through any agency other than Simple Surrogacy”

K. from Arizona chose to be a surrogate before she contacted Simple Surrogacy. She “went into surrogacy with the notion that it would just be something I would get through.” K. however found that “Simple Surrogacy gave me a whole new sense of self-worth during my surrogacy.”

 

Simple Surrogacy will stop at no lengths to ensure all those who choose to use or services are treated with respect, are educated on the topic, and ultimately feel comfortable at every stage of surrogacy. If you have more questions about Simple Surrogacy, please do not hesitate to contact us! Our educated and eager staff would be happy to assist you!

Egg Donation: What Type of Egg Donor am I?

Posted on: November 3rd, 2016 by Simple Surrogacy No Comments

Considering egg donor arrangementEgg Donation is a big decision.  Once you have decided to donate your eggs, you must chose an egg donor arrangement.

There are three types of egg donor arrangements. You must decide which type of donor arrangement you would like before your profile is submitted to the intended parents. An egg donation can be completed by an Anonymous Egg Donor Arrangement, a Semi-Open Egg Donor Agreement, or by an Open Egg Donor Arrangement. Here are the differences between each donor arrangement.

Anonymous Egg Donor Arrangement

Anonymous Egg Donor Arrangement is the most common type of egg donation. In this arrangement, the recipient(s) receive no information about you. In return, you also receive no information about the recipient(s). In Anonymous Egg Donor Arrangement you may not, depending on the agreement, even be informed if a pregnancy occurs.

Semi-Open Egg Donor Arrangement

In a Semi-Open Egg Donor Agreement you will learn only basic information about the egg donation recipient. The basic information that you will learn about the recipient(s) include their name and state. During Semi-Open Egg Donor Agreement the recipient will also learn basic information about you, the egg donor, such as your name and state.

Open Egg Donor Arrangement

In an Open Egg Donor Arrangement, all information between parties will be shared. A line of communication between the donation recipient(s) and the egg donor must be kept open at all times. On occasion, depending on the donor agreement, this line of communication must be maintained throughout the life of the child(ren). With open egg donation, you the donor, are given the chance to review the intended parent(s) profile and learn about them. In some instances, if agreed upon by both parties, arrangements can be made to speak on the phone, or meet even meet in person.

There are many things you need to consider before choosing one of the above donor arrangements.

If you are interested in learning more about egg donation and egg donor arrangements, please do not hesitate to contact us. You can contact us toll-free at 1-866-41-SURRO or locally at 214-673-9321. If you would prefer to speak to us in person, one of our surrogacy experts would be happy to schedule an appointment for you! You can also contact us via our online form. We look forward to assisting you through your egg donation!